What is crazy anyway? How can anyone tell what another person is thinking. A person can make a pretty fair estimate on what is rational using logic and real world tangible evaluations but how can you tell what is really happening in anothers head. Sometimes I'm not sure what is happening inside my own head.
If a person says that they desire one thing greatly and then they do things to prevent that one thing from happening it is not rational - from a certain point of view.
But is it crazy? Well, there is no way for me to tell. I feel caught in a situation similar to the one very briefly described above. I wish that I could see the whole picture but I am limited in my ability to do so and so must work on a) What I know, and b) What I believe.
This probably looks crazy to you. Since my counter proves that no one is reading this I guess I could say anything I want to. However, I feel I must respect the privacy of the people involved and I can't say much more in this forum.
Monday, July 19, 2004
Tuesday, July 13, 2004
E-Motions
John Bradshaw wrote in one of his books about the emtions of Anger, Sadness, Fear, Guilt, Shame and Joy. These are fundamental to us all he wrote and went further to name them all as e-motions or rather energy-motions. He said that these e-motions are the driving forces for why we do things.
Anger - we feel when our basic human needs are not being met and it drives us to action.
Sadness - we feel when we have pain and drives the process of healing.
Fear - we feel when our basic needs are threatned and it drives us to action.
Guilt - we feel when our values are not congruent.
Shame - we feel as a reminder that we are only human.
Joy - we feel when our needs are met
My life is fairly complex right now and so I stopped for a moment to think about how I fell into those categories.
Joy - I haven't felt joy for quite some time. I feel that I have many needs that are not being met.
Shame - I have lots of problems with shame especially since when I feel anger I feel feelings of shame mixed with it. I learned as a small child not to be angry but of course I am since I am only human. This is something I'm trying to conciously recognize and accept.
Guilt - I feel mostly congruent with my values in my personal life. I do feel guilty that I don't sepnd as much time with my children as I would wish.
Fear - I have lots of fear especially over my family. I'm afraid of getting divorced (I am currently separated from my wife). Living alone and not seeing my kids every day scares me. Thinking that my youngest is small enough that he may never remember living with dad scares me.
Sadness - I feel sad sometimes, but mostly I put my sadness off telling myself that my fears have not been realized and that they may not be. I feel like sadness is on hold as it were.
Anger - I feel sometimes angry. I am angry sometimes about how I have behaved and the mistakes that I have made. I am angry sometimes about how I feel that others who should be willing or able to meet my needs either can not or will not.
Anger - we feel when our basic human needs are not being met and it drives us to action.
Sadness - we feel when we have pain and drives the process of healing.
Fear - we feel when our basic needs are threatned and it drives us to action.
Guilt - we feel when our values are not congruent.
Shame - we feel as a reminder that we are only human.
Joy - we feel when our needs are met
My life is fairly complex right now and so I stopped for a moment to think about how I fell into those categories.
Joy - I haven't felt joy for quite some time. I feel that I have many needs that are not being met.
Shame - I have lots of problems with shame especially since when I feel anger I feel feelings of shame mixed with it. I learned as a small child not to be angry but of course I am since I am only human. This is something I'm trying to conciously recognize and accept.
Guilt - I feel mostly congruent with my values in my personal life. I do feel guilty that I don't sepnd as much time with my children as I would wish.
Fear - I have lots of fear especially over my family. I'm afraid of getting divorced (I am currently separated from my wife). Living alone and not seeing my kids every day scares me. Thinking that my youngest is small enough that he may never remember living with dad scares me.
Sadness - I feel sad sometimes, but mostly I put my sadness off telling myself that my fears have not been realized and that they may not be. I feel like sadness is on hold as it were.
Anger - I feel sometimes angry. I am angry sometimes about how I have behaved and the mistakes that I have made. I am angry sometimes about how I feel that others who should be willing or able to meet my needs either can not or will not.
Friday, July 09, 2004
TERMINAL SERVER
Bah! I have a Win 2K server running Symantec Corps 8.0 version of the Security Console and Quarantine Console and Symantec AV Server 8.0. After that I had to install terminal services in order to support some other needs of my work. Now I’ve got an upgrade to the Symantec software to their 9.0 version but attempting to install it gives the message that it won’t install on a terminal server. Bah!
Does anyone know how to get this installed anyway? First, I thought I’d try and stop the Terminal services and see if I could install the software. Next I could remove the terminal services programs, install what I need and then re-add terminal services. At least those are my first two ideas.
Does anyone know how to get this installed anyway? First, I thought I’d try and stop the Terminal services and see if I could install the software. Next I could remove the terminal services programs, install what I need and then re-add terminal services. At least those are my first two ideas.
WEEKENDS
I’m an IT professional. I spend all day every day working on some type of computing thing. Lately, I’ve discovered that I like getting away from them on the weekends. I aggressively don’t use computers on the weekend unless I absolutely have to.
The point of this post is: no updates on the weekends.
The point of this post is: no updates on the weekends.
PETITION FOLLOW UP
So I’m going to sign the petition I was talking about a few days ago. Like I said previously, I was inclined to do so anyway. After thinking about it I feel that I should attempt to be some sort of influence on my government to protect the things that I value.
The text of the proposed amendment.
*put on tin foil hat*
I'm not sure that the government will be responsive to what my values are regardless of this proposed amendment or not. I somtimes have the feeling that the members of the government, are so far removed from my daily concerns and beliefs that they are incapable of understanding them. It sometimes seems to me that the Federal government is abrogating to much power unto it self and I have to admit that it concerns me that as a society many of us feel that we need the government to step in and set the rules.
*remove tin foil hat*
The text of the proposed amendment.
*put on tin foil hat*
I'm not sure that the government will be responsive to what my values are regardless of this proposed amendment or not. I somtimes have the feeling that the members of the government, are so far removed from my daily concerns and beliefs that they are incapable of understanding them. It sometimes seems to me that the Federal government is abrogating to much power unto it self and I have to admit that it concerns me that as a society many of us feel that we need the government to step in and set the rules.
*remove tin foil hat*
Thursday, July 08, 2004
BLOGGAGE 2
So does anyone ever read these things? Obviously I'm a new blog but I'm not alone. According to Technoraiti over 15,000 new blogs are created every day and on average there are three blongs updated every second. That is lots to read. Stiff competition. How do people find blogs anyway? I always found mine by links from other pages I was already reading. Any one have a good idea?
SPORK THE SPAM
I hate spam.
Big surprise huh? I’m responsible for the IT functions of my workplace and being a bit of a small shop that means I do most of the work too. For the last year my spam filtering was deleting about 27% of all our incoming mail as spam. For a number of reasons I wasn’t able to just use a public blacklist but I had to create a custom filter list to delete spam.
This was getting out of control, I was spending more than an hour each morning going through my mailbox and adding the offending messages that slipped through my filters to the new filter list. The amount of spam I was receiving was increasing daily and so were the number of complaints from others. I heard that the average worker complains to their IT department about spam at least once a year. I was getting way more than tat.
Finally, it became to much for me to tolerate and I added a heuristic filter to my spam engine. Can I just say wow! What kept me so long? Currently we are deleting more than 50% of all our incoming mail as spam. My personal inbox has dropped from averaging around 200 messages each morning to around 40. A much higher percentage of my time is spent being useful and I spend less time cursing the spammers
But they should be cursed I don’t believe that they have a right to consume my time and computational resources to the degree that they are. I don’t see any really good technical solutions to this problem yet in spite of the options being discussed by the big boys (Yahoo, Microsoft, etc). Jerry Pournell has recommended public floggings for spammers. I assume as tongue in cheek but I think he makes a point that the risk to spammers is negligible.
I think there needs to be some increased risk to spammers. They don’t pay for the delivery or storage costs. Their only real cost is the creation of the copy (which must not cost most of them much judging by the spelling and grammar) and the initial bandwidth to send the messages (which I understand is small since they often use compromised hosts to do the mailings for them).
So maybe we should use public floggings as a disincentive to send spam. Or would traditional methods of legal enforcement work like fines, jail times and impounded equipment? It’s clear that something needs to be changed. What are your ideas?
LATER: A UN Proposal in the news.
Big surprise huh? I’m responsible for the IT functions of my workplace and being a bit of a small shop that means I do most of the work too. For the last year my spam filtering was deleting about 27% of all our incoming mail as spam. For a number of reasons I wasn’t able to just use a public blacklist but I had to create a custom filter list to delete spam.
This was getting out of control, I was spending more than an hour each morning going through my mailbox and adding the offending messages that slipped through my filters to the new filter list. The amount of spam I was receiving was increasing daily and so were the number of complaints from others. I heard that the average worker complains to their IT department about spam at least once a year. I was getting way more than tat.
Finally, it became to much for me to tolerate and I added a heuristic filter to my spam engine. Can I just say wow! What kept me so long? Currently we are deleting more than 50% of all our incoming mail as spam. My personal inbox has dropped from averaging around 200 messages each morning to around 40. A much higher percentage of my time is spent being useful and I spend less time cursing the spammers
But they should be cursed I don’t believe that they have a right to consume my time and computational resources to the degree that they are. I don’t see any really good technical solutions to this problem yet in spite of the options being discussed by the big boys (Yahoo, Microsoft, etc). Jerry Pournell has recommended public floggings for spammers. I assume as tongue in cheek but I think he makes a point that the risk to spammers is negligible.
I think there needs to be some increased risk to spammers. They don’t pay for the delivery or storage costs. Their only real cost is the creation of the copy (which must not cost most of them much judging by the spelling and grammar) and the initial bandwidth to send the messages (which I understand is small since they often use compromised hosts to do the mailings for them).
So maybe we should use public floggings as a disincentive to send spam. Or would traditional methods of legal enforcement work like fines, jail times and impounded equipment? It’s clear that something needs to be changed. What are your ideas?
LATER: A UN Proposal in the news.
Wednesday, July 07, 2004
SIGN THE PETITION?
Sometimes I get petitions forwarded to me in order to support one thing or another. Sometimes they even ring my doorbell or accost me at the entrance of the supermarket.
Most of the time I refuse to sign these. I admit I’m not often familiar with both sides of the issue in question and something that motivates someone to go around collecting signatures probably means that this person has a vested interest in the outcome. Maybe it’s religious or financial or political. And I have always wondered what don’t I understand about this issue? I suppose that shows my laziness in not being more aware of the political landscape around me. I read the local paper and am generally aware of the broad issues but often don’t take the time to learn the finer details.
Currently, I’ve been sent a link to sign a petition to support The Federal Marriage Amendment. I am a Christian and I believe that at its heart marriage is a religious institution that has been supported by civil and public institutions. I have a faith based belief that unless marriage takes place between a man and a woman it is not a marriage in the eyes of God. Regardless of what man may say to the contrary. So from the basis of my faith I am inclined to add my name to this petition.
Information on this issue is difficult to find. Or rather, calm analysis of this issue is difficult to find. All of the web pages I googled up on this so far have been full of flashy graphics and links and bolded words and rhetoric. I’d much prefer to locate a scholarly analysis of the issue. The opponents state that this is nothing more than legalized discrimination. The supporters state that this is simply an effort to protect the values that maintain healthy families.
The senate is scheduled to vote on this issue in mid-July. News reports show that America is divided on the issue, although, it also appears to have a fairly large grassroots support. I believe I will take a few days to think about the wisdom of a constitutional amendment. Delay is my friend in this since it will give me time to think about it and to learn more.
Most of the time I refuse to sign these. I admit I’m not often familiar with both sides of the issue in question and something that motivates someone to go around collecting signatures probably means that this person has a vested interest in the outcome. Maybe it’s religious or financial or political. And I have always wondered what don’t I understand about this issue? I suppose that shows my laziness in not being more aware of the political landscape around me. I read the local paper and am generally aware of the broad issues but often don’t take the time to learn the finer details.
Currently, I’ve been sent a link to sign a petition to support The Federal Marriage Amendment. I am a Christian and I believe that at its heart marriage is a religious institution that has been supported by civil and public institutions. I have a faith based belief that unless marriage takes place between a man and a woman it is not a marriage in the eyes of God. Regardless of what man may say to the contrary. So from the basis of my faith I am inclined to add my name to this petition.
Information on this issue is difficult to find. Or rather, calm analysis of this issue is difficult to find. All of the web pages I googled up on this so far have been full of flashy graphics and links and bolded words and rhetoric. I’d much prefer to locate a scholarly analysis of the issue. The opponents state that this is nothing more than legalized discrimination. The supporters state that this is simply an effort to protect the values that maintain healthy families.
The senate is scheduled to vote on this issue in mid-July. News reports show that America is divided on the issue, although, it also appears to have a fairly large grassroots support. I believe I will take a few days to think about the wisdom of a constitutional amendment. Delay is my friend in this since it will give me time to think about it and to learn more.
BLOGGAGE?
I’ve read a number of blogs over the years; I suppose they have their roots in the old .plan and .finger files. I’ve read them too. I have considered writing my own but have often held back. I’ve seen many blogs that go no where. And I have a fear of being misunderstood and also a fear of being inconsequential and finally a fear of being thought dumb and even more finally a fear of confrontations. Writing my own blog would force me to face all of those fears. Maybe no one will read my words, maybe those that do will not understand what I am saying, maybe what I have to say is worthless or silly and finally maybe what I say will cause people to *gasp* argue with me.
I would like an outlet.
The hardest part so far has been trying to think of a name. I always hated that part of playing a new character in a game too. The Tungsten Table has a nice alliteration going for it. I also think the Tungsten Bathtub is a good name, it’s a bit more casual which fits me. I may start with one and change it later if I choose to. Do you have an idea you would like to share? Let me know what it is.
I would like an outlet.
The hardest part so far has been trying to think of a name. I always hated that part of playing a new character in a game too. The Tungsten Table has a nice alliteration going for it. I also think the Tungsten Bathtub is a good name, it’s a bit more casual which fits me. I may start with one and change it later if I choose to. Do you have an idea you would like to share? Let me know what it is.
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